Mystic humor

Posted February 8, 2010 by stacibo
Categories: Everyday moments, Family, Relationships

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Laughter comes easily in our house and no subject is taboo, including my work choices. But humor can also convey change, love and acceptance, even if it’s reluctant.

In response to my latest January Dancing-Tree Consulting Newsletter, my mother-in-law emailed my husband, privately, writing, “Do you think the time will come when you and I would be able to sign-up for this type of program/class? Oh gush…”

This from a woman who is still recovering from the fact that I gave up financial security 15 years ago when I quit law school in favor of a women’s spirituality degree. “A what?” she used to ask.

My husband, being the loving son that he is (from 3000 miles away) wrote back to his mother, “Whenever you’re ready, though some of these programs are for women only.” Then he added, “P.S. I live these classes EVERY DAY!!!!” with the following image:

After two kids and 21 years of relationship it’s nice to know that my extended family loves me and wants to connect, even when they don’t understand.

P.S. As for the image, who’s wearing the rose colored glasses in our house now?

Healing music: how relationship grows relationship

Posted January 24, 2010 by stacibo
Categories: Everyday moments, Music Weaving, Relationships

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One night about ten years ago I was asked to select music for a group of people participating in a healing circle. Reluctantly, I agreed. For about six hours I sat staring at a pile of world music CD’s with my stomach twisted in agony. I had no idea what to play. The CDs meant nothing to me because I hadn’t listened to them. No doubt, the music sucked that night. Over the next year I played music twice more. I wish I could say it was a better experience but I couldn’t hear much beyond the waves of anxiety crashing through my system.

One day a dear friend, Sue, invited me to be a guinea pig for her upcoming presentation on dance as a spiritual practice. As we moved together, the vision for Sacred Dance landed inside. Because music was an integral part of dance, Sue and I began to spend many hours listening to world music together. Within 6 months there was an opportunity to be an ongoing assistant for a beloved healing form, Maitri Breathwork. The catch: the facilitators needed help with music.

Music was knocking at the door and love ushered me across any threshold of resistance. In those days creating playlists meant hunching over a CD player and then burning a disk song by song. As I spent hours listening, feeling my body’s response to different music, and studying the art of transition, songs shifted from being strangers to close friends. Eight years later and with the help of iTunes, I now curl up in bed with ear phones and a blanket for a restorative moment as I weave music together for an upcoming group. I’m nourished by listening for the ways my song friends want to gather and form themselves into a basket of healing.

Last Saturday, January 16th, I sat in the lead seat for Maitri Breathwork for the first time. The decision to ask the people holding music to rely on my collection was instinctual and unexamined. And then during the breathwork, alongside a great team of human helpers, my community of music enveloped me. As I moved through the day, golden strands of harmony ignited an inner compass that helped me relax into my new role as lead facilitator for Maitri Breathwork.

Days later and I’m still in awe. That music moved from trauma to treasure in my life was plenty. That music gifted me by bridging a joyful expansion with Maitri Breathwork, a healing form I’ve loved for 14 years, leaves me full of gratitude for how relationship grows relationship.

What relationships have grown you in surprising ways?

Embodied Joy

Posted January 3, 2010 by stacibo
Categories: Body, Everyday moments, The Art of Practical Spirituality, dance

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In gratitude to Rhythm & Motion Dance Program on it’s 30th Anniversary

In the beginning your un-skinny sculpted beauty invited my 15-year-old chunky self into the splendor of my curves

There your leaps showed me how to celebrate the female power blooming in the arch of my back and the depth of my thighs

The slow roll of your hip along with an “Uh huh, come on now” wrapped my growing sensuality in a cocoon of divinity leaving no room for doubt or objectification

Then a change in song engaged your playful pelvic thrust igniting my teenage angst into serious fun

I entered college my body remembered with seeds of Sacred Dance tucked inside my heart

Now I am a woman grown awake in life sustained by love where planted feet spirals belly into an unencumbered voice

My body is a doorway for healing and movement is my medicine

Your dancing spirit transforms exercise into a daily prayer composting grief into inspiration

Amidst waving arms and stomping feet your living glory is a compass of choice leading away from victimhood and into an open heart

Inside you are a fluid Oz weaving music into a tapestry of moving love lifting us on dancing strands of soul as we rise with the sun

Beside sincere humility your artful essence creates a rhythmic temple where together we experience embodied joy great love becomes

Fear and a Cup of Coffee

Posted December 21, 2009 by stacibo
Categories: Everyday moments, Navigating the uknown, Relationships, Relationships, The Art of Practical Spirituality

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Today is Winter Solstice and marks the shortest day and the longest night, where in the West we begin journeying from from the darkest winter time into the light to embrace a moment of rebirth. Within this time, it’s important to remember that it’s the peak of darkness that reminds people to call for the light; an inability to see in the dark evokes fear of the unknown.

As a practical spiritualist I believe that denying fear, while understandably human, doesn’t serve growth. Over the years, through clients and my own personal work, I’ve learned that pushing a fear away just gives it more power to quietly run rampant through daily life  wreaking havoc with relationships, decisions and projects. Instead, by inviting fear out of the shadows, we can begin to see how fear has not only limited growth but also how it has taken care of us. By normalizing fear, we can sort through what part of fear needs shedding and what part deserves compassion, gratitude and even celebration.

At this point fear becomes a friend. Perhaps not a best friend. The kind of friend who has faults, who usually wants to offer a lot of questionable advice, but who may be trying to help in a misguided sort of way. Inviting a fear out of the shadows to sit down for some coffee and honest conversation is one way to begin engaging the unknown inside as a source of potential rather than trepidation. After all, aren’t you be a bit curious about what a conversation with fear might reveal?

So, while I’m remembering the light during this holiday day season, I’m also celebrating the gifts inside the dark.

Re-entering Practical Spirituality

Posted December 6, 2009 by stacibo
Categories: Everyday moments, Navigating the uknown

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Dear Blog,

Whenever there is a break in relationship, it’s always difficult to decide how or if to re-connect. I’ve been feeling our distance for some time, noticing it, studying it, and deciding how or if we are meant to be. I think the disconnect happened during a moment of change. Then I felt you tugging at me, asking for my attention, and somewhere between excitement and obligation, I froze in confusion.

Yesterday afternoon I had the pleasure of sitting with a beautiful group of women focusing on exploring and realizing path, power and potential. It takes so much courage to engage in our potential because discovery requires entering new unknowns in ourselves and the world. Last night I spoke about the fear that greets us at the doorway of change. I woke up this morning feeling you, dear blog, and recognizing that it’s time to embrace the unknown in our relationship here.

You see, while I haven’t connected with Practical Spirituality, the blog, for some time, the truth is I’ve spent the last seven months deeply engaged with the essence of Practical Spirituality itself. Like a woman embracing new life, I needed privacy for another level of conception to take root inside.

Seven months later and I’m so much clearer about my relationship with Practical Spirituality, how it guides me personally and forms the foundation of my work through individual healing sessions, group experiences or small business consulting. It’s time to re-engage with you, dear blog, and activate our tagline, “exploring and realizing potential”.

Since practicality asks me to be real about what commitments I can truly make, and life has been beautifully full balancing my growing children, writing and healing work, I’m going to start slow and gentle. I will begin following the thread of this blog and post something once every two weeks. If inspiration yells, I will do my best to answer more quickly, but no promises.

Until then, thank you so much for your patience with me.

Love,

Staci

For those reading this post, what keeps you from exploring potential?

Sage Cohen, Writing the Life Poetic

Posted April 24, 2009 by stacibo
Categories: Everyday moments, In Motherhood,, Insight, Inspirational Writings

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wtlpcoverhighSage Cohen, poet, seeker, mama and mentor extraordinaire, has published Writing the Life Poetic: An Invitation to Read and Write Poetry , a new book from Writer’s Digest.

In her mentoring, Sage welcomes students by creating an atmosphere of intentional play and open hearted commitment. Her constant response to a tiny achievement or insight, “And how will you celebrate this today?”, invites beauty into every corner. Sage’s spirit remains true in her book and helps birth our inner poet. I’m happy to share a Q&A with Sage here.

Do people need an advanced degree in creative writing in order to write poetry?
Absolutely not! Sure, poetry has its place in the classroom; but no one needs an advanced degree in creative writing to reap its rewards. What most people need is simply a proper initiation. I wrote Writing the Life Poetic to offer such an initiation. My goal was that everyone who reads it come away with a sense of how to tune into the world around them through a poetic lens. Once this way of perceiving is awakened, anything is possible!

Who is Writing the Life Poetic written for?
Practicing poets, aspiring poets, and teachers of writing in a variety of settings can use Writing the Life Poetic to write, read, and enjoy poems; it works equally well as a self-study companion or as a classroom guide. Both practical and inspirational, it will leave readers with a greater appreciation for the poetry they read and a greater sense of possibility for the poetry they write.

How has integrating the reading and writing of poetry into your life impacted you?
I will risk sounding melodramatic in saying that poetry saved my life. I stumbled into a writing practice at an extremely vulnerable time in my early teenage years. Poetry gave me then, as it does today, a way of giving voice to feelings and ideas that felt too risky and complicated to speak out loud. There was a kind of alchemy in writing through such vulnerabilities…by welcoming them in language, I was able to transform the energies of fear, pain and loneliness into a kind of friendly camaraderie with myself. In a way, I wrote myself into a trust that I belonged in this world.

Is it true that your book and your baby were conceived and birthed at the same time? What did you learn from this process?
Yes, I often refer to my son Theo and Writing the Life Poetic as my multi-media twins! I found out I was pregnant with Theo about two months into the writing of the book and I was making final edits to the book in layout two weeks after he was born. It was fascinating to have two of the most potent creative processes I’ve ever experienced happening in tandem. What I learned is a great respect for the birthing journey; it is one that has completely rewritten me along the way.

I am writing a monthly column this year for The Writer Mama zine titled “The Articulate Conception” which chronicles my journey of becoming an author and a mom. Through the course of ten essays, I am exploring this double-whammy birth trajectory–from the twinkle in my eye to the bags under my eyes. The first column is available here.

sagecohen1Sage Cohen is the author of Writing the Life Poetic: An Invitation to Read and Write Poetry (Writers Digest Books, 2009) and the poetry collection Like the Heart, the World. An award-winning poet, she writes four monthly columns about the craft and business of writing and serves as Poetry Editor for VoiceCatcher 4. Sage co-curates a monthly reading series at Barnes & Noble and teaches the online class Poetry for the People. To learn more, visit www.writingthelifepoetic.com. Drop by and join in the conversation about living and writing a poetic life at www.writingthelifepoetic.typepad.com!